Stay Strong My Friends

Friends,

I say from the bottom of my heart. I am so sorry.

For everyone. And what everyone is going through.

In entertainment, hospitality and anything and everything having to do with people or customer service. It really does hit us the hardest. But let’s not forget about the medical field and everyone else trying to do their normal everyday jobs. And to those who are saving lives, thank you. Everyone everywhere is just wondering what just happened to the world. We need to respect everyone’s’ life.

This is a difficult time for a lot of us. Some of us will not get unemployment. Some of us will really struggle to pay the bills. Some of us will just be extremely lost because we’ve never felt this ever before in our lives.

Take it from someone who has hit rock bottom several times, you will be OK. This is very hard to hear for a lot of people, but you will. I promise. You’ll understand why when you recover.

How do I know? Once you’ve hit rock bottom, a couple or so times, you learn how to get back up.  It seems impossible. But the people who fight will know exactly what I’m talking about.

I believe in our industry and the people who work in it. There’s a reason why we got into it in the first place. There’s a reason why we stick around. We are a community of outsider thinkers and big believers.

Do I know exactly what to do during this difficult time? Absolutely not. Everyone grieves differently. Everyone has a little slightly different way of thinking about life and living life.

What do I think you should do with your abnormal, large amount of time? Reflect on what means the most to you. Your career, family, friends, hobbies. What makes you get up in the morning? What makes you continue to grow and learn from your previous experiences? What gives you some sort of purpose?

I’ve known for a while but one purpose of mine is saving animals. I always have, but now I will make it more of a priority to volunteer with animals. Because animals have saved my life in the past, now it’s my time to help them and save them.

During this time, I hope you find purpose. Peace. Closure. I hope you spend more time with your close family and friends or at least give them a call. I hope you get a better understanding of our world and the world we are living in.

During this time, I hope you find new excitement in the world, something else to look forward to besides work. I hope you forgive those that have hurt you in the past. I hope you find new excitement in your partner or find a new partner. A new hobby perhaps. Something that drives you and a new passion to help you grow into the person you should be and can be. That I know you can be.

But I hope this rattles your world, to the point where you change for the better. Not just for you, but everyone around you.  We can do this, I know we can. Just believe in yourself and the community that surrounds you. We can fight this.

 

That Time Of Year

It’s that time of year. Christmas music flowing, my bank account is not glowing. It’s extremely dead unless you work Christmas parties/events/parades.

So it’s the time of year, where you reflect on what you want for next year and what you can improve on from the previous year.

But I hope that no matter where you are in life or what you are doing in life, that you have goals and ambitions for next year. To the be best the version of yourself.

This next year, I hope to write a lot more. I hope to travel a lot more. I hope to be a better person for my communities and I hope I can help more people this next year.

Nobody is perfect in this world, but at least we can work to be the best person we can be.

This is not a post about “counting your blessings”, I hope you get your butt to work and do the things you want to do next year!

 

Something Christmasy!

 

Only Exception

I’m really slacking on my website here!

Also, I’m all about improving myself, so if you have tips on making my site/blog better, I’m all about it!

Well besides being consistent, I know I need to get my act together on that!
As I continue to browse the internet and look up things I don’t need to buy, I can’t help but think about how selfish I am with my career.

Let me explain:
I’ve come a long way from where I started when I was 22 years old. I’m still growing and learning as I always talk about. But what I haven’t talked about is all the sacrifices I’ve had to make to get to where I am.

My aunt died last week and if there is a funeral I’m pretty sure I won’t make it because I’ll be on tour. I’ve missed several family events, due to the fact that I’m 8/10 hours away or because I was off in my own little universe or sleeping on a bus. My friends that I hold near and dear to my heart, you know who you are. I’ve missed so many little moments with you and I’m so sorry. And to the love of my life, if there is one. I’m sorry to my knight and shining armor. I haven’t spent nearly as much time as I should trying to write my fairy tale ending. I hope you are still out there, my prince charming.

I don’t regret anything. I don’t. This is how my life panned out. But going forward, I’m going to focus on those I love.

 

 

Please Respect My Time and I’ll Respect Yours

Apologies for the big hiatus, I was extremely slow during this past winter and did not have much work. I literally had nothing to talk about. Now I’m swamped for the month of June and I may have three days off if I’m lucky. You gotta love this industry!

I will never complain about being busy because I could have another slow season come December. But what I will talk about in this post, is about advice and respect.

I’m the biggest advocate for asking for advice and guidance; you can never stop learning. However, I’m I don’t like it when people ask for my advice and they either blow me off or tell me I’m wrong.

Take for example resumes: Resumes no matter what industry you are in, they are important. It’s your time to shine and brag about yourself. But if I’m going through with a resume with a fine tooth comb, I’m not criticizing just because I’m only doing it because someone asked for my advice and I want that person to improve. And let’s be honest, no one is perfect! I could always improve!

At the end of the day, you can’t force people to do anything. But if there is one thing I can tell you. If someone is giving you their time, respect it. Because we only have so much of it.

Artists

Hello from Casper, Wyoming. Not much to do here since there is one Uber in town and we are actually 20 minutes outside of Casper. Either way, happy for a day off.

Before this last run in South Dakota, I decided to fly out early to stay at my grandma’s house for a couple of days. It was probably one of the best decisions I’ve made in a while.

Just to give you an idea of my grandma’s house:

She lives out in the middle of woods in Custer, South Dakota. There are no city streets and you can see every star in the sky at night. It is truly a beautiful experience. Sometimes I think I’m in a scary movie it is so remote.

My grandma died on my birthday three and a half years ago. She was a great person and a talented artist. My grandma went to school for seven years with her masters in art education. She painted very well and she drew like it was real life figures. I cried when I walked into her house and all the paintings were still up. It is what she would have wanted. She didn’t paint for anyone else besides herself.

I know I write mostly about music artists, but I think it’s important to address all the different kinds of artists in the world. My grandma died a true artist and she was one of the best ones who went undiscovered.

Rest in Peace Grandma

 

 

Dear Ashleigh

I’ve briefly mentioned before, I used to write all the time. Not write as in like blog writing, but songwriting. I’m not very good at it. I get these crazy ideas, they bottle up inside me and they never go anywhere. It feels like I’m trying to say something but I can’t complete the sentence.

It sounds like the story of my life, but I understand why songwriting is such an art. There’s a beauty to it. Some people get it, some don’t.

As I’m writing this right now, I’m literally pulling my hair out because I’m trying to figure out my point.

For the first time in months, I finally picked up my keyboard. It’s currently sitting on my bed but I was finally playing for the first time in a long time.

So now where do I go from here? Do I keep it to myself? Do I let others know what I’m doing? What thing is for certain- my birthday is coming up and I feel like I’m missing something in my life.

Maybe songwriting can help me figure it out. Don’t believe me- I wrote the lyrics to the song below.

 

 

“But I Can’t Go With Me Like This”

When life gets tough, sometimes it is OK to cry. Because let’s face it, we’ve all been through some roughness in our life, you don’t know if you’ll be able to face the real world again.

I wish there were more sad songs on the radio. I mean losing something or missing something so special to you. I think people would be able to relate to more songs because losing something (not in a heartbreak way) is such a strong feeling. Because sometimes, I can’t listen to music when I’m sad, because Pandora plays love songs… Not their fault, it’s just what is on the radio.

I’m in the process of losing my dog to cancer and it’s going to be a really tough process for me. She’s been so good to me as I’ve been traveling, moving and on my own adventures. She’s always there for me when I return. And because of everything I’ve been through since I moved down to Nashville, I’m going to start songwriting and playing piano again.

Honesty is the Best Policy

It doesn’t matter what you are doing in life. It doesn’t matter what period you are in your life. There will always be people around who will always try to bring you down.

Whether it’s in your career or whether it’s in your personal life, boy or girl, chicken or cow, it will happen to you at some point in your life.

Now, when it comes to handling this, there’s a couple of ways to go about it:

The crazy road: Where you start swearing up a storm and start ripping peoples’ hair out.

The I’m better than this road: This is when you ignore everything and act like nothing is going wrong… because you are “better than this” AKA you are oblivious to everything to what is actually going on.

Or you can take this road…

Jaimee’s road: This is the way I do things. I’m not saying it’s right, I’m not saying it’s the holy grail. This is how I’ve learn to handle things. I like to go head on with things. I like to head straight  on with the problem, and just confront the person. Sure, words may be exchanged but honesty has always been the best policy for me.

 

 

“It’s Never Quite as it Seems”

As I sit here reading Chelsea Handler books, I realize I’m a straight up loser sitting in on a Friday night and not going out. Well not really that, I feel more like a loser because no one responds to my emails. And that my friend said to me he wants to “rent” my N64 games from me, instead of actually inviting me over to play. That’s straight up loser status.

But enough about me whining about how pathetic I am, I’m starting to lose my creativity. Because I haven’t been writing songs, I haven’t been going out, and my blogs are pretty pathetic. I really hope I get some inspiration soon, because I’m about to go nuts.

It doesn’t help, that people don’t return my calls or e-mails or the fact that I’ve been turned down from every job since September.

Then I remembered, that the holidays are coming up. People are busy. And the world does not revolve around me. Thank god it doesn’t, because I don’t want that much attention.

In other news: Happy Birthday Keith Richards!

Rockstars Are People Too

I really hate the stereotype of musicians and the rockstar lifestyle. It’s not true at all. Believe me, their lives are not as glamorous as you think it is.

Yesterday I walked into a bar with a couple of friends for Sunday Funday. Low behold, guess who walks in. Miranda Lambert. And after all the controversy that has been going on with her, I’m sure she just wants to be surrounded by good friends,people and beer.

And of course what happens, she is swarmed by 10,000 guys trying to hit on her. She literally just wants a beer and to be left the hell alone. Naturally, she dipped out in the back way to escape the horror.

But seriously, when you are going through a hard time, all you want is comfort and support. But once you have made it in the big leagues, your normal life disappears.

Please tell me, when you are feeling alone, scared, vulnerable, you want to be swamped with paparazzi cameras staring at you like mosquitos… I didn’t think so.

So next time you see someone super famous out and about, leave them alone.