“Nothing in this world could ever bring them down” Echosmith

Everyone is in the Same Boat

If you follow this blog, you know this blog was mostly about music. Well guess what COVID-19 happened and it’s STILL happening. It’s 12 days in 2021 and I’m already mentally exhausted. I’m exhausted about what’s going on in the world. I’m exhausted about my career and after 10 years of working towards it, my career just disappeared.

I’m tired of the news and all the negativity. I’m tired of the peoples’ flakiness because let’s be honest, we are all struggling. We are all drowning in the same water, some of us just have boats and yachts others have canoes and life vests. Just remember that when you decide to play the “woe is me” card.

I know I sound so mean, rereading what I typed, it can sound really harsh. I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again, I’m not trying to be mean, I’m trying to be honest. I have friends in music who are struggling and I have people who work in medical that are struggling. Everyone is struggling in their own way and the scary part is the ones that don’t show pain are the ones that are struggling the most.

I wish I could write about what’s going on in music and the next show/artist you should go see next. I wish I could write about a the next artist I’m going on tour with. I wish I could write about the newest production that is happening on stage. I just wish I could happen about what’s going on in the world of music and entertainment in general.

Life sucks right now. Most of our worlds have flipped upside down and inside out. It’s an adjustment for everyone. So I leave you with this. Remember the scene in Bridesmaids, where Annie’s mom says, “Honey, I think this is your rock bottom. But you know what’s good about hitting rock bottom, you can only go up.”

Annie kind of rolls her eyes because she’s heard that line before and then later in the movie Annie says, “Hey mom, remember when you said I hit rock bottom… that wasn’t it.” And like most movies it has a sappy, happy ending. I can’t guarantee your life will have a bow at the end of your ending. But I will tell you, I’ve hit rock bottom, it’s not as bad as it seems. Believe me, I got through it, and if this is your rock bottom. Just know, you will get through this.

So It Begins- 2021

It’s the year 2021… and nothing has changed. I’m not surprised and neither should you.
I’m not exactly sure why, but I’m still hesitant about this year.
Is this year really going to be better than 2020? Typing 2020 just gave me chills…

Everyone had this whole idea about the pandemic being over and life would be back to normal. Hard reality check, my job still doesn’t exist and neither do concerts at this moment.

Rumor has it, most entertainment won’t start until May 2021, but it’s just a rumor.

If I were you, I would walk into this year slowly and guarded. You did your good deeds and you have walked the fine line of not getting Covid-19. How about we count our blessings, shut up, listen to science, and actually start caring about people.

You want concerts back, care about my job and the thousands of other jobs behind the scenes. Wear a mask and don’t discredit people who are still wearing masks because this pandemic “is not over.”

This is me not trying to be mean, I am your reality check. I am one of 12 million people out of
work in live entertainment. From the bottom of my heart, start caring about people. That’s all I’m asking for in 2021.

My hope

I hope that 2021 has better outcomes than just sitting on the couch watching Netflix, Prime, or Hulu.

I hope that people start to care about people other than the people they see at their neighborhood bar

I hope that the world starts to change for the good and for the future of our children

I hope that your community is nicer to you and you are nicer to your community in return

I hope that you are able to save money for the future

I hope you are able to pursue and work towards your dreams during these dark times

I hope that life doesn’t get you down and you are able to work through your troubles

I hope that no matter where you are in life, whether you are graduating college or you are expecting a baby, that you are grateful for things you already have

I hope that you understand that someone in this world loves you

My hope is that you keep a positive mindset and you continue to love yourself no matter what

I Hope You Voted

Most of you follow my blog because of my insight on the music industry. Well let me tell you, it’s been pretty quiet this year #thanks2020. So I’m going off the rails a little bit.

I’m not here to tell you which way to vote. If you’re blue or red, I don’t care. If you pay any attention to my blogs, you probably know which way I go, but that’s not the point.

If you are reading this, and you are an American citizen and 18 or older, I hope you voted. I hope you voted by mail, I personally voted early, I hope you voted today. However, if you didn’t vote. Your voice isn’t being heard, and if you complain about anything going on in the world, just remember you didn’t vote.

Why is voting so important? I’ve saved my music and art departments through my years at school. It was because I used my voice to persuade the board members to keep the music programs alive. They voted because I said something. I stood up for something.

If your voice is all that matters, why aren’t you using it?

Can You Say Double Standard?

For years, men having been writing all about sex and degrading women. I literally Googled “Degrading songs about women ” and this link popped up:

https://www.bustle.com/articles/137558-12-songs-that-are-actually-full-of-super-misogynistic-lyrics

For years, music has been talking about sex, getting into the mood, and many other ways of “doing it”. This linked popped up when I typed in “Songs about Oral Sex”:

https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/g25313048/songs-about-oral-sex/

And this was found in Mens Health magazine… OK??

So my question here is, this isn’t anything new. What is the big deal about Cardi B and her song, “WAP”? There have been so many songs way before her about sex and oral sex. Also her music video, is not even as bad as others. Does anyone remember “Blurred Lines”? Those women were literally naked in that video.

What I’m trying to get at here is this: IT IS NOT A BIG DEAL. If Ja Rule, Kayne, Frank Ocean, name any other R&B artist, or even pop or rock artist, made a song about BAD (You can figure out that acronym), no one would blink an eye. But because a woman does it, she’s disgusting and perverted.

This is 2020, where the world is burning down and we are in an uproar about a song. Let’s get a grip people, it’s not a big deal.

And if you still don’t believe me, Google “Top Songs about Sex”.

Save Our Stages

Hi, it’s me again. Look, I’m not trying to be the wet blanket, I just want everyone to know, this is getting really, really bad. Like really bad for the events world.

So I’m going to say what everyone is going to roll their eyes at.

Let’s stay positive or at least let’s try to. So what’s next? What can we do to #saveourstages and #saveliveevents in general? What can you do?

Well first thing is first. Start talking about it. I haven’t been on tour since March, and this is normally my busy concert/festival season. That should be the number one red flag for concert goers everywhere. Start talking about 10 to 12 million people are still out of work. Yes, that’s only 3% of the the U.S. population, but think about the rest of the world. The percentage goes up quickly.

Secondly, you may think it doesn’t apply to you, but it does. Sure, you may not go to concerts, but have you been to a comedy or Broadway show? If we don’t do something, those smaller theaters and venues may not exist. They relay on smaller events to continuously bring revenue in.

Thirdly, even if you think that we are on the right path or if you think there is a vaccination coming out soon. Sure, that may be true. However, I talked to a good friend who is a production manager for a A-list artist. His touring schedule, doesn’t start until September 2021. Literally a year away. Let that sink in a bit.

Even if the rest of the world finally gets back to normal, we still will not be. Because of large gatherings and close proximity of people.

If you seriously want to help, here’s how:

  1. Start talking about it. Let’s get this conversation to go viral and help this industry out.
  2. Donate. To your favorite organizations, bands, venues doesn’t matter, every penny counts.
  3. Reach out to your local, state and federal representatives. If there is something you have that’s free, it’s your voice. Speak up.

I know myself and all my colleagues have worked too hard for this industry to go down like the Titantic. Let’s #SaveOurStages and help for those #WeMakeEvents

https://www.cnbc.com/video/2020/08/25/live-event-industry-went-to-zero-income-in-march-and-will-remain-at-zero-until-next-year-bandit-lites-founder.html?fbclid=IwAR2PdmgdTcj5iIQCLR4FbLMMxoN0xys9qtjlKkRQBbwGkoMFxV1pM_wh8pQ

We Are Not Coasting

An acquaintance (who works in the events world) who I know through coworkers and such was lucky enough to work for her mom’s company during this tough time. So when she asked me what I was doing with my time her response was, “Oh, so I guess you’re just coasting.”

First off, that is one of the most insensitive things you could ever say to someone during this pandemic. I know I can be harsh and blunt, but I’m not about hurting anyone’s feelings. Especially when the entire events and entertainment world is at a standstill. And millions of people are still out of work because of the pandemic.

Secondly, if you are that person that thinks that people like us should just “get another job” because we are “coasting”. Let me put it into perspective for you.

I have been working in the events world for the last 10 years. I’ve dedicated my life and made a lot of personal sacrifices to get to where I am today. 10 years may not seem like a lot, but that is 1/3 of my life. Essentially, my entire 20s has been dedicated to putting on events. So to tell someone like me or anyone else who works in this industry to get another job, just know that is a big slap in the face to us.

Also, I don’t know what happened to being kind to people, but a lot of us are mentally struggling. We are still trying to wrap our minds around the fact that our livelihood and our careers are done. How do I know this, just look at your social media pages. It’s devasting.

I recently saw a friend, and not only did he lose his touring job. But he was diagnosed with a rare skin disease and filed for bankruptcy. So please tell me he’s coasting. Because to me, it sounds like he’s just trying to survive.

I would also like to point out, that any show/movie you are watching during this pandemic. Those people are out of work as well. So forget about the new season of whatever show you are watching in this current moment in time.

Look, I’m not trying to be mean or shame people who work normal jobs or are lucky enough to find work. I just want people to understand. The entertainment/events world is struggling. Hard.

Most of us are not getting financial support. And if we are, it’s because we actually work for an artist/actor/production company, that is lucky enough to pay their staff. That’s like hitting the lottery right now. But I would say the majority of them can’t pay their staff. With no events, means no money coming in. And I wouldn’t be surprised if a lot of companies went under. It’s the sad truth.

Also, I have a lot of friends who have started their own small businesses just to pay their bills. So if you see an old band shirt on Poshmark©, please buy the shirt from them, it might mean they have water next month.

But it’s not just the people working. It’s the local venues. It’s the small artists that have been trying to get on stage for the past 10 years. It’s the people who work at big and small venues. It’s the people who produce your favorite TV show. It’s any sporting event you can think of. I could go on and on about how many people this affects. If the entertainment world doesn’t come back like it was before, just know the economy will struggle. You can kiss the Super Bowl goodbye as well.

From the bottom of my heart, if you know someone that works in the entertainment/events world, be kind to them. Literally, ask them how they are doing. While some people may be getting back on their feet, others are trying to figure out how to pay the bills.

Are Concerts Too Soon?

With the music and entertainment world at a halt, the big question is when the next big show will be? The answer is we don’t know.

And if you have been hiding around a rock because the media is driving you nuts, you probably don’t know there have been a couple of concerts that have recently happened.

Two country artists this past weekend did have a concert. One was about a 4,000 person concert and the other about 2,000.

One artist posted very publicly on Instagram about how rowdy the show was. No social distancing and no one in the video was wearing a mask. Needless to say, it had a lot of backlash on the subject. And for good reason, because as one person posted in the comments,( This is paraphrased because I couldn’t find it in the sea of comments) what about the rest of the industry? What standard are you setting? Don’t you think it will set us back?

After having several conversations with people about it, yes a lot of people are pissed. A lot. The recklessness and how everyone else is being put in the risk of COVID-19 with no proper restrictions. People in the industry are pissed.

And as much as I want to go back to work, I have a feeling it is too soon for concerts to go back to normal. So until we figure out a way, concerts won’t be happening for a while.

 

 

Enough is Enough

With all the crap that’s going on in the world, I feel as though it needs to be addressed. I may lose some followers, but as hard as I fought for myself, it’s time to fight for those who can’t fight for themselves.

I’ve been an advocate for women’s rights since day one. Not only is it because I’m a “cute, tiny, blonde hair, blue-eyed” girl that gets harassed on a daily basis on and off work sites. But it’s also because it’s continuing to happen in the industry that as of right now does not exist.

But right now that doesn’t matter because  #blacklivesmatter.

I’ve worked mostly in white, male dominate industries from hospitality, music, and marketing. I’ve been the underdog because I’m a woman. But sometimes I forget about my white privilege.

Would I have been able to make it or even get certain jobs if I was a black woman?

The big elephant in the room is probably not or at least it would be much harder. Why? I have no idea? What is it that apparently people have such an issue with? Honestly, out of all the years of working, minority groups are some of the hardest working folks. They don’t mess around and they get s*it done. They are just trying to move up in the world like the rest of the underdogs.

Updated Portion:

**I would like to add I’ve been fortuate enough to work with some great companies and bosses. I will add that they are very progressive and forward-thinking, especially in music. And for that, I’m definitely grateful for all the opportunities I’ve been given. With that being said, my work situation, I’m lucky enough that because of my hard work and effort, it’s because I’m here and where I am today. Not due to anything else including my sex and race.**

Again white privilege because I can’t completely relate but I can at least understand and have empathy for those in those situations.

So exactly, as a community, country, and individuals, how do we progress and move forward? How do we make a positive change? Especially in certain worlds, where it is still dominated by white males.

My roommate who is from the Dominican Republic said it best. “You can read, donate, and protest all you want. But until white people actually check other white people for their bad behavior, it is never going to stop.”

And she is completely right, it is time white people step it up and start fighting the fight that should have happened a long time ago. If you see white people being just a plain butt plug to minority groups, literally step in and say something. Because enough is enough.

 

 

What Next?

As we approach the phases of getting back to “normal”. We still don’t know what normal will be. We also don’t know what it means for live events and concerts.

So where do we go from here? A lot of people have been wondering that and quite frankly, so have I.

I know there are a lot of artists going rogue on the streaming and social media. That’s great! Keep the music alive! I know drive-in concerts are now becoming a thing. I know there are a couple of different streaming platforms that are happening and are in the works.

Will this become the new normal? The way we experience events becomes this social distancing and separating of people?

To tell you the truth, I’ve been reading a lot about what others in the industry think. And I have to agree with a lot of them. Regardless of how the events world is going to change, it’s never going to be the same as a live show with a cheering crowd.

There I said it. Eventually, can we get there? I’m hopeful, but enjoying a loud, noisy concert with the crowd singing at the top of their lungs will never be the same.