We Are Not Coasting

An acquaintance (who works in the events world) who I know through coworkers and such was lucky enough to work for her mom’s company during this tough time. So when she asked me what I was doing with my time her response was, “Oh, so I guess you’re just coasting.”

First off, that is one of the most insensitive things you could ever say to someone during this pandemic. I know I can be harsh and blunt, but I’m not about hurting anyone’s feelings. Especially when the entire events and entertainment world is at a standstill. And millions of people are still out of work because of the pandemic.

Secondly, if you are that person that thinks that people like us should just “get another job” because we are “coasting”. Let me put it into perspective for you.

I have been working in the events world for the last 10 years. I’ve dedicated my life and made a lot of personal sacrifices to get to where I am today. 10 years may not seem like a lot, but that is 1/3 of my life. Essentially, my entire 20s has been dedicated to putting on events. So to tell someone like me or anyone else who works in this industry to get another job, just know that is a big slap in the face to us.

Also, I don’t know what happened to being kind to people, but a lot of us are mentally struggling. We are still trying to wrap our minds around the fact that our livelihood and our careers are done. How do I know this, just look at your social media pages. It’s devasting.

I recently saw a friend, and not only did he lose his touring job. But he was diagnosed with a rare skin disease and filed for bankruptcy. So please tell me he’s coasting. Because to me, it sounds like he’s just trying to survive.

I would also like to point out, that any show/movie you are watching during this pandemic. Those people are out of work as well. So forget about the new season of whatever show you are watching in this current moment in time.

Look, I’m not trying to be mean or shame people who work normal jobs or are lucky enough to find work. I just want people to understand. The entertainment/events world is struggling. Hard.

Most of us are not getting financial support. And if we are, it’s because we actually work for an artist/actor/production company, that is lucky enough to pay their staff. That’s like hitting the lottery right now. But I would say the majority of them can’t pay their staff. With no events, means no money coming in. And I wouldn’t be surprised if a lot of companies went under. It’s the sad truth.

Also, I have a lot of friends who have started their own small businesses just to pay their bills. So if you see an old band shirt on Poshmark©, please buy the shirt from them, it might mean they have water next month.

But it’s not just the people working. It’s the local venues. It’s the small artists that have been trying to get on stage for the past 10 years. It’s the people who work at big and small venues. It’s the people who produce your favorite TV show. It’s any sporting event you can think of. I could go on and on about how many people this affects. If the entertainment world doesn’t come back like it was before, just know the economy will struggle. You can kiss the Super Bowl goodbye as well.

From the bottom of my heart, if you know someone that works in the entertainment/events world, be kind to them. Literally, ask them how they are doing. While some people may be getting back on their feet, others are trying to figure out how to pay the bills.

Live to Work or Work to Live

The one thing I always say in my interviews, “you’re not just applying to a place to make money, it’s a lifestyle, it’s the life you want to live and that’s why I want to work for (your company). I want my life to be about (this company).”… OK I say something along the lines of that, it’s not necessarily word for word, but when I say it I mean.

But how far do you have to go to get to what you want and how much do you have to sacrifice along the way? Long story short, I am missing a very important family event because I can’t get off of work. Needless to say, my mom was very upset with me. And I don’t blame her, because I want my life eventually to be work to live and not live to work.

My point: hopefully you’ll choose the places  you work for because you want to work there. If you’re not happy, you probably need to get out.

I have been so bad when it comes to keeping up with my blog. It’s amazing when you lose a full time gig how much time you fill it up with!

As y’all know, SXSW changed my life, in many positive ways. It’s made me realize what I really want out of life but also look at life as it’s more of opportunities rather than doubts.

With that being said, I had my plans set on Austin. But due to recent events in my life and with more jobs in Nashville, it looks like as of now, I’m moving to Nashville.

Please don’t call me wish washy. I love both cities and will end up living in both at some point in my life. But as of now, Nashville looks like it’s calling my name.

Why I Want to Move

This time of year, it makes me very uninspired to do anything. If it’s too cold out, who the heck wants to go outside? If it’s nice out but no snow, it is still to cold to do anything and too crappy to want to do anything!? It is pretty much a lose lose situation.

That is why I want to move to Nashville or Austin. Not only are those two great cities for music but they have warm weather mostly year round and there is so much richness and culture in those cities. So much history and yet they are major cities that are affordable.

However, as a job seeker, I’m finding it hard to be taken seriously when I’m applying from out of state.I’m trying my best to stay positive but it looks like when I move… I might have to go in blind sided.

But if I fail, at least I tried following my dreams.Because if I don’t try, I’ll never know. If I never know, I live in a place of regret for the rest of my life.

But knowing me, I don’t think I’ll will fail miserable. I can’t because I won’t let myself. I’ve come this far, it’s about damn time something falls into place.


Because the weather sucks, here is a great song for the weather!