Enough is Enough

With all the crap that’s going on in the world, I feel as though it needs to be addressed. I may lose some followers, but as hard as I fought for myself, it’s time to fight for those who can’t fight for themselves.

I’ve been an advocate for women’s rights since day one. Not only is it because I’m a “cute, tiny, blonde hair, blue-eyed” girl that gets harassed on a daily basis on and off work sites. But it’s also because it’s continuing to happen in the industry that as of right now does not exist.

But right now that doesn’t matter because  #blacklivesmatter.

I’ve worked mostly in white, male dominate industries from hospitality, music, and marketing. I’ve been the underdog because I’m a woman. But sometimes I forget about my white privilege.

Would I have been able to make it or even get certain jobs if I was a black woman?

The big elephant in the room is probably not or at least it would be much harder. Why? I have no idea? What is it that apparently people have such an issue with? Honestly, out of all the years of working, minority groups are some of the hardest working folks. They don’t mess around and they get s*it done. They are just trying to move up in the world like the rest of the underdogs.

Updated Portion:

**I would like to add I’ve been fortuate enough to work with some great companies and bosses. I will add that they are very progressive and forward-thinking, especially in music. And for that, I’m definitely grateful for all the opportunities I’ve been given. With that being said, my work situation, I’m lucky enough that because of my hard work and effort, it’s because I’m here and where I am today. Not due to anything else including my sex and race.**

Again white privilege because I can’t completely relate but I can at least understand and have empathy for those in those situations.

So exactly, as a community, country, and individuals, how do we progress and move forward? How do we make a positive change? Especially in certain worlds, where it is still dominated by white males.

My roommate who is from the Dominican Republic said it best. “You can read, donate, and protest all you want. But until white people actually check other white people for their bad behavior, it is never going to stop.”

And she is completely right, it is time white people step it up and start fighting the fight that should have happened a long time ago. If you see white people being just a plain butt plug to minority groups, literally step in and say something. Because enough is enough.

 

 

What Next?

As we approach the phases of getting back to “normal”. We still don’t know what normal will be. We also don’t know what it means for live events and concerts.

So where do we go from here? A lot of people have been wondering that and quite frankly, so have I.

I know there are a lot of artists going rogue on the streaming and social media. That’s great! Keep the music alive! I know drive-in concerts are now becoming a thing. I know there are a couple of different streaming platforms that are happening and are in the works.

Will this become the new normal? The way we experience events becomes this social distancing and separating of people?

To tell you the truth, I’ve been reading a lot about what others in the industry think. And I have to agree with a lot of them. Regardless of how the events world is going to change, it’s never going to be the same as a live show with a cheering crowd.

There I said it. Eventually, can we get there? I’m hopeful, but enjoying a loud, noisy concert with the crowd singing at the top of their lungs will never be the same.

“Times Like These”

It is day… I can’t even remember at this point. I feel like Tom Hanks in Cast Away. Time is just going and going… and going and going and going.

I think we are all going nuts. Believe me, I’m going stir crazy, but just know, that you are safe and you are going to get through this. Let me repeat that, you are safe and you will get through this.

I have to tell myself that every day, it’s hard to be positive during this time but you need to do it. It’s hard to keep people positive and uplifted as well. But I get it, sometimes it’s just really, really, hard.

I have several friends who have posted about their struggles and it’s difficult to know that so many people are having a strenuous time. And there isn’t much I can do about it. It’s a crappy feeling to know that people are hurting.

So now what? It’s getting close to most states to reopening. So what does that mean for entertainment? Unfortunately, we really don’t know. I don’t know and I’m not going to try to guess what is going to happen for sports and entertainment. I may not tour for the rest of the year, or maybe I could be back to work by summer. I highly doubt it, but who knows.

But for those of you, who are in the same position as me. I hope you are working around your house, hanging with your family, and working to keep moving forward with your life.

 

Keep Fighting My Friends

Friends,

I say this with a heavy heart. I’m so sorry about everything that is going on in the world right now. There’s no other way to put it besides the fact that this really sucks.

My industry, in particular, is struggling. We don’t even know if we will be able to work this year. There are hopes for it, but most of us aren’t sure. This is a nightmare and a very just stressful time for everyone. Anyone that has an hourly job, works in hospitality. It’s just nerve-racking not knowing when most of us will be going back to work.

But I can say for a lot of people in my life personally, we are strong, we are resilient, and we will fight back. Hopefully, come back stronger than before.

For my readers: Keep your head up, keep doing whatever you are doing that will get you through this. This is not easy for anyone. Believe me, I have my days. Some days, I’m great and happy as a clam. Some days like today, it was really hard to get out of bed. It was hard to get my energy and spirit up. As I write this, I just want to go back to bed. 

For everyone: Fight the negative feelings. Be grateful that you have a roof over your head and you have clean water to drink. Be grateful that you are alive. We in America literally have all the resources to protect ourselves. There are countries that will be wiped out from this virus.

Don’t forget that everyone is going through this, and we just have to get through this. Together. There is end in sight. There is hope.

Stay safe and please stay at home.

I know I’ve posted this song before, but I think more people to hear this more than ever.

Stay Strong My Friends

Friends,

I say from the bottom of my heart. I am so sorry.

For everyone. And what everyone is going through.

In entertainment, hospitality and anything and everything having to do with people or customer service. It really does hit us the hardest. But let’s not forget about the medical field and everyone else trying to do their normal everyday jobs. And to those who are saving lives, thank you. Everyone everywhere is just wondering what just happened to the world. We need to respect everyone’s’ life.

This is a difficult time for a lot of us. Some of us will not get unemployment. Some of us will really struggle to pay the bills. Some of us will just be extremely lost because we’ve never felt this ever before in our lives.

Take it from someone who has hit rock bottom several times, you will be OK. This is very hard to hear for a lot of people, but you will. I promise. You’ll understand why when you recover.

How do I know? Once you’ve hit rock bottom, a couple or so times, you learn how to get back up.  It seems impossible. But the people who fight will know exactly what I’m talking about.

I believe in our industry and the people who work in it. There’s a reason why we got into it in the first place. There’s a reason why we stick around. We are a community of outsider thinkers and big believers.

Do I know exactly what to do during this difficult time? Absolutely not. Everyone grieves differently. Everyone has a little slightly different way of thinking about life and living life.

What do I think you should do with your abnormal, large amount of time? Reflect on what means the most to you. Your career, family, friends, hobbies. What makes you get up in the morning? What makes you continue to grow and learn from your previous experiences? What gives you some sort of purpose?

I’ve known for a while but one purpose of mine is saving animals. I always have, but now I will make it more of a priority to volunteer with animals. Because animals have saved my life in the past, now it’s my time to help them and save them.

During this time, I hope you find purpose. Peace. Closure. I hope you spend more time with your close family and friends or at least give them a call. I hope you get a better understanding of our world and the world we are living in.

During this time, I hope you find new excitement in the world, something else to look forward to besides work. I hope you forgive those that have hurt you in the past. I hope you find new excitement in your partner or find a new partner. A new hobby perhaps. Something that drives you and a new passion to help you grow into the person you should be and can be. That I know you can be.

But I hope this rattles your world, to the point where you change for the better. Not just for you, but everyone around you.  We can do this, I know we can. Just believe in yourself and the community that surrounds you. We can fight this.

 

Only Exception

I’m really slacking on my website here!

Also, I’m all about improving myself, so if you have tips on making my site/blog better, I’m all about it!

Well besides being consistent, I know I need to get my act together on that!
As I continue to browse the internet and look up things I don’t need to buy, I can’t help but think about how selfish I am with my career.

Let me explain:
I’ve come a long way from where I started when I was 22 years old. I’m still growing and learning as I always talk about. But what I haven’t talked about is all the sacrifices I’ve had to make to get to where I am.

My aunt died last week and if there is a funeral I’m pretty sure I won’t make it because I’ll be on tour. I’ve missed several family events, due to the fact that I’m 8/10 hours away or because I was off in my own little universe or sleeping on a bus. My friends that I hold near and dear to my heart, you know who you are. I’ve missed so many little moments with you and I’m so sorry. And to the love of my life, if there is one. I’m sorry to my knight and shining armor. I haven’t spent nearly as much time as I should trying to write my fairy tale ending. I hope you are still out there, my prince charming.

I don’t regret anything. I don’t. This is how my life panned out. But going forward, I’m going to focus on those I love.

 

 

Please Respect My Time and I’ll Respect Yours

Apologies for the big hiatus, I was extremely slow during this past winter and did not have much work. I literally had nothing to talk about. Now I’m swamped for the month of June and I may have three days off if I’m lucky. You gotta love this industry!

I will never complain about being busy because I could have another slow season come December. But what I will talk about in this post, is about advice and respect.

I’m the biggest advocate for asking for advice and guidance; you can never stop learning. However, I’m I don’t like it when people ask for my advice and they either blow me off or tell me I’m wrong.

Take for example resumes: Resumes no matter what industry you are in, they are important. It’s your time to shine and brag about yourself. But if I’m going through with a resume with a fine tooth comb, I’m not criticizing just because I’m only doing it because someone asked for my advice and I want that person to improve. And let’s be honest, no one is perfect! I could always improve!

At the end of the day, you can’t force people to do anything. But if there is one thing I can tell you. If someone is giving you their time, respect it. Because we only have so much of it.

Music World & Dating World

There is this crazy thing called dating. I know it’s been around forever and it’s how we find this thing called our “soulmate”. If you follow my blog, I talk a lot of my stresses, my ups, and downs, but not so much about my dating life.

Let me make this clear, I’m not writing this blog because I think the music industry is “bad”. I love what I do and I’m passionate about music ( as you all know). However, there are a lot of life adjustments and compromises you need to make to have your life work. One of them is dating.

Here is how the ” Hi, I’m Jaimee, I work in the music industry.” dating conversation that is called “my life” in a nutshell.

Literally… pretty much every conversation goes: ( In bold is me)

“Oh! You work in music that is so cool! What do you do”

“I help make the show run smoothly. Basically, any fires that need to be put out, I put them out.”

“Oh, so what exactly is your title?”

“Production assistant/coordinator, it changes from gig to gig.”

“Oh cool, you’ve probably have worked with some pretty amazing acts.”

“Yes, I’m grateful for the opportunity with the ups and downs of my job.”

” So what are your hours like?”

“They are pretty much all over the place, it depends on the gig. My job/festival/tour changes from gig to gig.”

” Oh, I see…”

I’ve had this exact conversation at least 20 times in the past year. Guys find me fascinating, but they don’t walk into the unknown, that is my job.

Long story short, if people don’t work shows, they have a hard time understanding what I do. And therefore, get freaked out from the unknown of hours, will I have time for anything, when I’ll be available, am I partying with the artist…

It blows my mind most guys won’t give me a chance. But it goes for my guy friends too. Girls can’t stand when they are on the road. They look at them like they just got mono from them.

So for those of you out there that want to do this. Just know that dating will be extremely hard. And people will look at you like you just farted in public.

Oh What a Night

Wow! Words can’t explain what has happened to me this summer. But it’s a roller coaster!

I learned a lot about myself, my career and what I want out of life.

Here is what I learned from tours and festivals I’ve worked so far:

  • I want respect. I don’t need the ground I walked to be a red carpet, I just want sugar and spice and everything nice. Meaning peoples’ personality, not things or stuff.
  • I want to move up in my career. It’s one thing to have power, but it’s another to have power and to create better opportunities for your team and for yourself. But also, I just like to make life a little bit easier.
  • I do like to travel for work. I’ve been to some places, I probably wouldn’t have gone had it not been for work. I’m extremely grateful for that and experience new places in the world.
  • I don’t want to be an asshole. I’ve learned that just being mean to people is just petty and stupid. I’ll always be the first one to admit when I make a mistake, but don’t be a jerk about it when I admit my faults.
  • I don’t ever want to be anyone else but me. I can’t help who I am. I can be really tough at times and I can be the nicest person in the world. But in the end, I am who I am. I plan on treating everyone well and equally and I want the same in return.

 

Musician Yes. Living No.

I’m hoping that if a little bit more time on my hands, I’ll start to write more music and playing more music. I’m in a better place where I understand what my music and writing mean to me. It’s a good thing, and my mind can be at peace.

I am not trying to take it anywhere or trying to pursue anything with it. I just really, really want to think about my music and what it means to me.

No more over analyzing or overthinking what phrases mean. Or thinking about what other people think about it.

Touring has made me realize that I was not meant to live my life as a musician. And I’m totally ok with that. Truly OK with that.

Touring has made me realize more of my strengths and weaknesses. Made me realize what I want more out of life. But I’m starting to see more and more what my purpose is in this world.