Only Exception

I’m really slacking on my website here!

Also, I’m all about improving myself, so if you have tips on making my site/blog better, I’m all about it!

Well besides being consistent, I know I need to get my act together on that!
As I continue to browse the internet and look up things I don’t need to buy, I can’t help but think about how selfish I am with my career.

Let me explain:
I’ve come a long way from where I started when I was 22 years old. I’m still growing and learning as I always talk about. But what I haven’t talked about is all the sacrifices I’ve had to make to get to where I am.

My aunt died last week and if there is a funeral I’m pretty sure I won’t make it because I’ll be on tour. I’ve missed several family events, due to the fact that I’m 8/10 hours away or because I was off in my own little universe or sleeping on a bus. My friends that I hold near and dear to my heart, you know who you are. I’ve missed so many little moments with you and I’m so sorry. And to the love of my life, if there is one. I’m sorry to my knight and shining armor. I haven’t spent nearly as much time as I should trying to write my fairy tale ending. I hope you are still out there, my prince charming.

I don’t regret anything. I don’t. This is how my life panned out. But going forward, I’m going to focus on those I love.

 

 

Please Respect My Time and I’ll Respect Yours

Apologies for the big hiatus, I was extremely slow during this past winter and did not have much work. I literally had nothing to talk about. Now I’m swamped for the month of June and I may have three days off if I’m lucky. You gotta love this industry!

I will never complain about being busy because I could have another slow season come December. But what I will talk about in this post, is about advice and respect.

I’m the biggest advocate for asking for advice and guidance; you can never stop learning. However, I’m I don’t like it when people ask for my advice and they either blow me off or tell me I’m wrong.

Take for example resumes: Resumes no matter what industry you are in, they are important. It’s your time to shine and brag about yourself. But if I’m going through with a resume with a fine tooth comb, I’m not criticizing just because I’m only doing it because someone asked for my advice and I want that person to improve. And let’s be honest, no one is perfect! I could always improve!

At the end of the day, you can’t force people to do anything. But if there is one thing I can tell you. If someone is giving you their time, respect it. Because we only have so much of it.

Music World & Dating World

There is this crazy thing called dating. I know it’s been around forever and it’s how we find this thing called our “soulmate”. If you follow my blog, I talk a lot of my stresses, my ups, and downs, but not so much about my dating life.

Let me make this clear, I’m not writing this blog because I think the music industry is “bad”. I love what I do and I’m passionate about music ( as you all know). However, there are a lot of life adjustments and compromises you need to make to have your life work. One of them is dating.

Here is how the ” Hi, I’m Jaimee, I work in the music industry.” dating conversation that is called “my life” in a nutshell.

Literally… pretty much every conversation goes: ( In bold is me)

“Oh! You work in music that is so cool! What do you do”

“I help make the show run smoothly. Basically, any fires that need to be put out, I put them out.”

“Oh, so what exactly is your title?”

“Production assistant/coordinator, it changes from gig to gig.”

“Oh cool, you’ve probably have worked with some pretty amazing acts.”

“Yes, I’m grateful for the opportunity with the ups and downs of my job.”

” So what are your hours like?”

“They are pretty much all over the place, it depends on the gig. My job/festival/tour changes from gig to gig.”

” Oh, I see…”

I’ve had this exact conversation at least 20 times in the past year. Guys find me fascinating, but they don’t walk into the unknown, that is my job.

Long story short, if people don’t work shows, they have a hard time understanding what I do. And therefore, get freaked out from the unknown of hours, will I have time for anything, when I’ll be available, am I partying with the artist…

It blows my mind most guys won’t give me a chance. But it goes for my guy friends too. Girls can’t stand when they are on the road. They look at them like they just got mono from them.

So for those of you out there that want to do this. Just know that dating will be extremely hard. And people will look at you like you just farted in public.

Oh What a Night

Wow! Words can’t explain what has happened to me this summer. But it’s a roller coaster!

I learned a lot about myself, my career and what I want out of life.

Here is what I learned from tours and festivals I’ve worked so far:

  • I want respect. I don’t need the ground I walked to be a red carpet, I just want sugar and spice and everything nice. Meaning peoples’ personality, not things or stuff.
  • I want to move up in my career. It’s one thing to have power, but it’s another to have power and to create better opportunities for your team and for yourself. But also, I just like to make life a little bit easier.
  • I do like to travel for work. I’ve been to some places, I probably wouldn’t have gone had it not been for work. I’m extremely grateful for that and experience new places in the world.
  • I don’t want to be an asshole. I’ve learned that just being mean to people is just petty and stupid. I’ll always be the first one to admit when I make a mistake, but don’t be a jerk about it when I admit my faults.
  • I don’t ever want to be anyone else but me. I can’t help who I am. I can be really tough at times and I can be the nicest person in the world. But in the end, I am who I am. I plan on treating everyone well and equally and I want the same in return.

 

Musician Yes. Living No.

I’m hoping that if a little bit more time on my hands, I’ll start to write more music and playing more music. I’m in a better place where I understand what my music and writing mean to me. It’s a good thing, and my mind can be at peace.

I am not trying to take it anywhere or trying to pursue anything with it. I just really, really want to think about my music and what it means to me.

No more over analyzing or overthinking what phrases mean. Or thinking about what other people think about it.

Touring has made me realize that I was not meant to live my life as a musician. And I’m totally ok with that. Truly OK with that.

Touring has made me realize more of my strengths and weaknesses. Made me realize what I want more out of life. But I’m starting to see more and more what my purpose is in this world.

 

 

Avicii

I never had the opportunity to work with Avicii. I wish I did because I heard great things about him and his camp. Unfortunately, I won’t get that chance.Tim Bergling, the Swedish EDM star, passed away last week.

I think like the rest of the world, I was shocked to hear the news. A talented soul that was taken too soon. But selfishly, I can’t help but think how we are the same age. He had so much more in his life to accomplish.

As of now, there aren’t any reports of his cause of death. But I do know this. He was well respected in the music world and his fans adored him. He was primarily known for his dance style/remixed, heavy beats music. I’ll be the first to admit, his music is catchy.

Below I attached this awesome article about Avicii and his love for his music. It’s important to know that there are pop stars who give a damn about their work. It has passion and meaning behind it. He loved his work. And as someone who works in the industry, that’s the only reason why most of us do what we do. We love our work.

Rest In Peace

 

https://www.billboard.com/articles/news/dance/8372644/billy-raffoul-avicii-interview-you-be-love

 

“All Hail The Heartbreaker”

I went to another show, yes, another show that I wasn’t working! How Fabulous!
There are still a handful of bands that I have yet to see or really want to see. Either I miss their show or just missed opportunities for shows.

One of my favorite “emo” bands is The Spill Canvas. For as long as I can remember being emo in middle school, I would listen to this band on repeat.

It was a little bit of nostalgia for me because I never saw them live before. I thought I did with Fall Out Boy a long time ago, but I’m going to say probably not.

If you don’t’ know who they are, you should check them out. Especially if you do like bands such as New Found Glory and Simple Plan. These guys are part of that era and part of a huge part of my growing up.

If you get the chance to see them, they are on tour now and tickets are priced about $12/15 dollars.

Below is a song that will forever be a classic in my heart.

Dear Ashleigh

I’ve briefly mentioned before, I used to write all the time. Not write as in like blog writing, but songwriting. I’m not very good at it. I get these crazy ideas, they bottle up inside me and they never go anywhere. It feels like I’m trying to say something but I can’t complete the sentence.

It sounds like the story of my life, but I understand why songwriting is such an art. There’s a beauty to it. Some people get it, some don’t.

As I’m writing this right now, I’m literally pulling my hair out because I’m trying to figure out my point.

For the first time in months, I finally picked up my keyboard. It’s currently sitting on my bed but I was finally playing for the first time in a long time.

So now where do I go from here? Do I keep it to myself? Do I let others know what I’m doing? What thing is for certain- my birthday is coming up and I feel like I’m missing something in my life.

Maybe songwriting can help me figure it out. Don’t believe me- I wrote the lyrics to the song below.

 

 

“Hell of a Girl”

As the season is dwindling down, I’ve been thinking a lot about this past year and what I want for myself careerwise.

Here is what I know:

  • I have way more confidence in myself then I’ve ever have before.
  • I have developed skill sets and communication skills on a different and higher level that I didn’t think was possible.
  • I know I can do any job and do it well.
  • As long as I put my mind to it, I will succeed.

This self-power I’ve developed has come a long way for me. Because the only thing I have is the power to believe in myself. And I hope as a reader and follower you will too.

I don’t know where it came from, but I do know, I need it for my career and my self-worth.

I think it’s important to reflect on what your goals are and what you want to accomplish in the next years. I do have some personal goals of mine but overall, my main focus for next year is to be part of the few woman people look up to in Nashville.

“Me Too”

I know this is going around on social media and I’m sure most of the men are wondering what it means. The “Me Too” status is representing the person AKA the woman who has been sexually assaulted or harassed. I know this happens all the time, in any industry, at any given time. It can be physical, mental or emotional and it can be the smallest comment or rape.

It happens all the time in the music industry. All day every day. That’s a fact. And I have been a personal victim of this.Yes, I’ve been a victim. I’ve been commented on my looks, my body, my sexual being, just being myself people felt the need to say or do something to me.

The saddest thing about the whole situation is that people know this is a problem and some know that they are doing it. This is an issue. And some people don’t understand, sometimes what they do or say is sexual harassment. Nobody, either way, will do anything about it. That’s a problem.

As a woman, I suggest you stand up for yourself and tell the guy off if this happens to you. Or tell someone about it. Or go to the police. Stand up for yourself.

As a man, I suggest you keep your words and hands to yourself.